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Mar 4 14 11:17 PM

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Striking up a conversation with a girl you don't know can be hard for some guys. But most of the time, a little preparation is all that's required. If you become skilled in making small talk, you'll be seen as a more open and friendly person. Don't be that guy who don't talk to anyone in a social event. A word of caution though, don't be overly talkative as it can make you seem annoying to some people. Think of small talk as something you do to get someone talking. Anything can come up when you're having a small talk with someone. I mean just about anything. You should make it a habit to make small talk part of your daily routine.

Just think of the friends you can make when you know you can talk to just about anyone. Getting to know someone for the first time is easily accomplished with a good small talk. The bond you create with a person can easily start with a small talk. It's a really good skill to have especially in the business world where every connection is important. There are some things you can do to improve your small talk skills. Sure, it means a lot of practice and doing this will improve all your conversational skills.

Just keep reading and aim to make your small talk making ability better than before. Obviously, the best thing you can to make talking easy is simple talk. Talk to anyone that you came across with like your neighbours, waiters and cashiers. Talk to kids and other young folks to old men and women.

Chat with some tourists along the way. It's always good to practice with a total stranger willing to talk to you. You can get some good ideas from newspaper and magazine for some things you can talk about. Anything you can get your hands on can be a good source of things to talk about.  Sports, fashion and popular culture are some of the best ones you can find things to talk about. There's the internet where you can read about anything that interest you that might also interest someone. Even stories you've heard can be a good source of something to talk about. There's always something to talk about, think about your travels or experience somewhere. If you want to practice alone, you can use the mirror and talk there about random things. All the various things you know will help you greatly with making small talk happen. Knowing about many things gives you ammunition when the time comes to talk.

The best thing you can do to start is make yourself open for small talk. You can talk to people every time you're in a line and waiting for your turn. You can even make the situation favourable to you when you want to talk to a girl. Try hosting a party or going to one if you want to really get it going. Don't force yourself into the conversation with someone, just keep it natural. You should make her feel comfortable with an approachable body language. Keep your attention focused on her using your eyes and you communicate to her what you want to say. Though you should be excited to talk to her, don't be too eager about it. Avoid scaring her away with your overly close body language. Give her some personal space. If you already know her, you can just say hello and say her name. Get more ideas from make small talk sexy by Bobby Rio.

You don't have to think of too many things when you know her already. But when you don't know her, you want to be confident with your introductions with her.  When you get to know her name, repeat it when you talk to her to make her feel special. Actually talk to her when you're talking to her. Give her the attention she deserves. Just remember to have some fun when you're talking with her. It's great when you can accomplish that with just about anyone you can talk to, really. She'll be able to enjoy the conversation more and keep it going when you can do just that. Avoid talking about anything too negative so she won't be turned off. Make sure your day doesn't interfere with you making small talk with her especially when it's not going too good. When you can't think of anything to say, blurt out a compliment that's true. You can make her feel appreciated when you say something good about her before you get going again.

Keep your ears peeled for something worthy to talk about like common interests. It can be anything like your love for peanut butter and jelly. It can be something that she can relate to and make a connection with. Remember that anything can lead to something you can talk about. The moment you find something in common with her, keep talking about it. You can then say something personal about yourself or elaborate about it more. But don't make it too personal just yet if you don't want to freak her out. Now that you're talking about yourself, it's time to let her talk about herself. Questions are always a good way to know more about her when you need to. But be sure it's not something too personal like something about her health or religion or anything inappropriate. Just remember to keep it light and funny and good. Ask open-ended questions about her interests or surroundings. When she's done talking, you can then continue on with another question or just a funny remark about her reply. But try not to ask too many question to make her feel at ease and comfortable. This is not an interview that you have to barrage her with questions after questions.  Give her some room to talk but maintain a proper balance between talking and asking. You can have some time to think about your next move when she's talking and you're just listening. But don't forget that you still need to listen to what she says. 

Really listen to what she's really saying and really understand her every word. It will lead you to more things you can talk about and even get the conversation more exciting and fun.  So keep your ears ready for something she says that can open a new line of conversation. When you can listen, you don't really have to talk to much about anything. Listening actually encourages her to keep talking more and by then you'll understand her better. You can just listen and the conversation will just keep going on with itself with no effort from you. By the end of the conversation, you'll have known lots of things about her and she about you. All this will make you connect better with her even deeper and she'll feel really good about the experience. If you want, you can meet again next time by suggesting a good place and scheduling another day to continue. Just tell her you enjoy talking to her about a certain subject and ask her to hang out again. Be sure you make her feel good before you go your own way. Keep your eyes and ears open for another window to make small talk. If you're shy, you'll find this exercise a good way to boost your confidence. 

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